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New debate about mental illness and the upcoming DSM-5

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 8:55 AM

NIKI2

Gettin' old, but still a hippie at heart...


This was put up on the website I run, and I found it very interesting and a kind of shocking validation of what we've been talking about for a long time in the mental-health community, as well as having been discussed here and other places. This is a development which, if not taken seriously, can have enormous effects on many lives, not to mention the insurance industry and Big Pharma's hold over those of us who have been diagnosed.

It's a long article, and it will be long to share even some of the pertinent quotes, but this will give you some of the most important information in the article:
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Allen Frances, lead editor of the fourth edition of the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (universally known as the DSM-IV), the guy who wrote the book on mental illness, confessing that “these concepts are virtually impossible to define precisely with bright lines at the boundaries. There is no definition of a mental disorder. It’s bullshit. I mean, you just can’t define it.”
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Every fight over nomenclature threatens to undermine the legitimacy of the profession by revealing its dirty secret: that for all their confident pronouncements, psychiatrists can’t rigorously differentiate illness from everyday suffering. This is why, as one psychiatrist wrote after the APA voted homosexuality out of the DSM, “there is a terrible sense of shame among psychiatrists, always wanting to show that our diagnoses are as good as the scientific ones used in real medicine.”
"Real medicine"--I find that telling!
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Frances explains why he came out of a seemingly contented retirement to launch a bitter and protracted battle with the people, some of them friends, who are creating the next edition of the DSM. And to criticize them not just once, and not in professional mumbo jumbo that would keep the fight inside the professional family, but repeatedly and in plain English, in newspapers and magazines and blogs. And to accuse his colleagues not just of bad science but of bad faith, hubris, and blindness, of making diseases out of everyday suffering and, as a result, padding the bottom lines of drug companies. These aren’t new accusations to level at psychiatry, but Frances used to be their target, not their source. He’s hurling grenades into the bunker where he spent his entire career.
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In its first official response to Frances, the APA "diagnosed" him with “pride of authorship” and pointed out that his royalty payments would end once the new edition was published—a fact that “should be considered when evaluating his critique and its timing.”

Frances, who claims he doesn’t care about the royalties (which amount, he says, to just 10 grand a year), also claims not to mind if the APA cites his faults. He just wishes they’d go after the right ones—-the serious errors in the DSM-IV. “We made mistakes that had terrible consequences,” he says. Diagnoses of autism, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, and bipolar disorder skyrocketed, and Frances thinks his manual inadvertently facilitated these epidemics—-and, in the bargain, fostered an increasing tendency to chalk up life’s difficulties to mental illness and then treat them with psychiatric drugs.

The insurgency against the DSM-5 has now spread far beyond just Allen Frances. Psychiatrists at the top of their specialties, clinicians at prominent hospitals, and even some contributors to the new edition have expressed deep reservations about it. Dissidents complain that the revision process is in disarray and that the preliminary results, made public for the first time in February 2010, are filled with potential clinical and public relations nightmares. Although most of the dissenters are squeamish about making their concerns public-—especially because of a surprisingly restrictive nondisclosure agreement that all insiders were required to sign—-they are becoming increasingly restive, and some are beginning to agree with Frances that public pressure may be the only way to derail a train that he fears will “take psychiatry off a cliff.”

The book is the basis of psychiatrists’ authority to pronounce upon our mental health, to command health care dollars from insurance companies for treatment and from government agencies for research. It is as important to psychiatrists as the Constitution is to the US government or the Bible is to Christians. Outside the profession, too, the DSM rules, serving as the authoritative text for psychologists, social workers, and other mental health workers; it is invoked by lawyers in arguing over the culpability of criminal defendants and by parents seeking school services for their children.

If, as Frances warns, the new volume is an “absolute disaster,” it could cause a seismic shift in the way mental health care is practiced in this country. It could cause the APA to lose its franchise on our psychic suffering, the naming rights to our pain.

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Since 1980, when the DSM-III was published, psychiatrists have tried to solve this problem by using what is called descriptive diagnosis: a checklist approach, whereby illnesses are defined wholly by the symptoms patients present. The main virtue of descriptive psychiatry is that it doesn’t rely on unprovable notions about the nature and causes of mental illness, as the Freudian theories behind all those “neuroses” had done. Two doctors who observe a patient carefully and consult the DSM’s criteria lists usually won’t disagree on the diagnosis-—something that was embarrassingly common before 1980. But descriptive psychiatry also has a major problem: Its diagnoses are nothing more than groupings of symptoms. If, during a two-week period, you have five of the nine symptoms of depression listed in the DSM, then you have “major depression,” no matter your circumstances or your own perception of your troubles.

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The DSM-5 battle comes at a time when psychiatry’s authority seems more tenuous than ever. In terms of both research dollars and public attention, molecular biology—-neuroscience and genetics-—has come to dominate inquiries into what makes us tick. And indeed, a few tantalizing results from these disciplines have cast serious doubt on long-held psychiatric ideas. Take schizophrenia and bipolar disorder: For more than a century, those two illnesses have occupied separate branches of the psychiatric taxonomy. But research suggests that the same genetic factors predispose people to both illnesses, a discovery that casts doubt on whether this fundamental division exists in nature or only in the minds of psychiatrists. Other results suggest new diagnostic criteria for diseases: Depressed patients, for example, tend to have cell loss in the hippocampal regions, areas normally rich in serotonin. Certain mental illnesses are alleviated by brain therapies, such as transcranial magnetic stimulation, even as the reasons why are not entirely understood.

In recent years, the National Institute of Mental Health has launched an effort to transform psychiatry into what its director, Thomas Insel, calls clinical neuroscience. This project will focus on observable ways that brain circuitry affects the functional aspects of mental illness—symptoms, such as anger or anxiety or disordered thinking, that figure in our current diagnoses.

Although the APA doesn’t disagree that a revolution might be on the horizon, the organization doesn’t feel it can wait until 2020, or beyond, to revise the DSM-IV. Its categories line up poorly with the ways people actually suffer, leading to high rates of patients with multiple diagnoses. Neither does the manual help therapists draw on a body of knowledge, developed largely since DSM-IV, about how to match treatments to patients based on the specific features of their disorder. The profession cannot afford to wait for the science to catch up to its needs. Which means that the stakes are higher, the current crisis deeper, and the potential damage to psychiatry greater than ever before.

Allen Frances’ revolt against the DSM-5 was spurred by another unlikely revolutionary: Robert Spitzer, lead editor of the DSM-III and a man believed by many to have saved the profession by spearheading the shift to descriptive psychiatry. As the DSM-5 task force began its work, Spitzer was “dumbfounded” when Darrel Regier, the APA’s director of research and vice chair of the task force, refused his request to see the minutes of its meetings. Soon thereafter, he was appalled, he says, to discover that the APA had required psychiatrists involved with the revision to sign a paper promising they would never talk about what they were doing, except when necessary for their jobs. “The intent seemed to be not to let anyone know what the hell was going on,” Spitzer says.

Frances found out about a new illness proposed for the DSM-5. In May 2009, during a party at the APA’s annual convention in San Francisco, he struck up a conversation with Will Carpenter, a psychiatrist at the University of Maryland. Carpenter is chair of the Psychotic Disorders work group, one of 13 DSM-5 panels that have been holding meetings since 2008 to consider revisions. At the party, Frances and Carpenter began to talk about “psychosis risk syndrome,” a diagnosis that Carpenter’s group was considering for the new edition. It would apply mostly to adolescents who occasionally have jumbled thoughts, hear voices, or experience delusions. Since these kids never fully lose contact with reality, they don’t qualify for any of the existing psychotic disorders.

Frances found psychosis risk syndrome particularly troubling in light of research suggesting that only about a quarter of its sufferers would go on to develop full-blown psychoses. He worried that those numbers would not stop drug companies from seizing on the new diagnosis and sparking a new treatment fad-—a danger that Frances thought Carpenter was grievously underestimating.

He already regretted having remained silent when, in the 1980s, he watched the pharmaceutical industry insinuate itself into the APA’s training programs. (Annual drug company contributions to those programs reached as much as $3 million before the organization decided, in 2008, to phase out industry-supported education.) Frances didn’t want to be “a crusader for the world,” he says. But the idea of more “kids getting unneeded antipsychotics that would make them gain 12 pounds in 12 weeks hit me in the gut. It was uniquely my job and my duty to protect them. If not me to correct it, who? I was stuck without an excuse to convince myself.”

Frances warned that the new DSM, with its emphasis on early intervention, would cause a “wholesale imperial medicalization of normality” and “a bonanza for the pharmaceutical industry,” for which patients would pay the “high price [of] adverse effects, dollars, and stigma.”

Tons more at http://www.wired.com/magazine/2010/12/ff_dsmv/

Other psychiatrists have spoken up (mostly anonymously for fear of retaliation) on this same issue and with the same concerns, Frances is just an especially important voice given he was the lead editor of the DSM-IV. One good thing about all the furor is that in December 2009, the APA announced a one-year postponement, pushing publication back to 2013. Nonetheless, this highlights so MANY of the discussions we’ve had about the problem with no medical tests to determine diagnosis of mental illness, as well as the increasingly profitability of psychiatric illness for Big Pharma and health-insurance companies, that I find it long overdue that many professionals are finally beginning to speak up.

Obviously the day WILL come when medical tests can be utilized to accurately (or more accurately) diagnose mental illness—-which no doubt Big Pharma will fight tooth and nail---but in the meantime, this new version of the DSM is downright scary, to me. I've always felt uncomfortable about how subjective diagnoses have had to be and wished there were scientific tests, but what they do in the meantime is a conundrum; this new DSM-5, to me, isn't the answer!


Hippie Operative Nikovich Nikita Nicovna Talibani,
Contracted Agent of Veritas Oilspillus, code name “Nike”,
signing off





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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 9:14 AM

BYTEMITE


Been there.

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 9:28 AM

NIKI2

Gettin' old, but still a hippie at heart...


Yes, from what you've said, I'd agree wholeheartedly. So have FAR too many children; while I know people who were extremely grateful for early diagnosis and whose lives have been far better than they otherwise would have been without it--and I myself wish to hell I'd been diagnosed at a younger age!--FAR too many are being diagnosed too early and put on medications totally improperly, in my opinion.

The earlier "fad" of prozac was in my opinion the beginning of this trend to "just take a pill", which has become epidemic in this country now. I don't know which is better; Japan, where people hide their mental illness or have their family hide THEM because of the stigma, or here where we more and more rely on pills to "fix" everything.

I remember a day when TV was free of advertisements which encourage people to seek treatment for EVERYTHING; now I cringe and sometimes talk back to the TV when I see the myriad commercials telling people to take medications.

We've gone too far down the spectrum; many, many famous people (you'd be shocked at HOW many) suffered greatly from mental illness despite going on to create works of amazing talent. Now, I believe far too many are stymied from utilizing their talents, some are severely harmed from medication, and "mental illness" has become a business which feeds Big Pharma, health insurance cmpanies and others, while providing less and less incentive for people to work out their own problems. It sickens me that we've gone so very far down this road.


Hippie Operative Nikovich Nikita Nicovna Talibani,
Contracted Agent of Veritas Oilspillus, code name “Nike”,
signing off




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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 11:07 AM

PHOENIXROSE

You think you know--what's to come, what you are. You haven't even begun.


This is exactly why I maintain that people should demand testing before a prescription is written. The things too many people think of as no big deal, like antidepressants, change neurochemistry dramatically. If that change isn't necessary, there's a world of hurt. If it's the opposite of what's necessary, there's a universe of hurt.
If they are going to claim scientific standards, and claim these meds are all based on solid science, they can damn well run a quick test of neurotransmitter levels. And people should demand that they start doing so.
If an M.D. gave someone insulin because they showed 3 out of 6 symptoms of diabetes, but never ran a blood glucose test, they would lose their license. Psychiatric medicine should definitely be held to the same standard because it altars chemistry.
If they can't do that, they need to stick with talk therapy. Maybe lifestyle recommendations. Those should be the first line of treatment, anyway. But those drugs are serious stuff, and there should be serious testing of their necessity.


Ritual is what happens when we run out of rational.

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 11:15 AM

BYTEMITE


It's like a soma vacation.

Oh, you're having trouble crushing your soul, creativity, and ingenuity to fit into the box of social norms, relationships, and work we've created for you. Buy soma! And remember, the economy doesn't function unless you consume!

/alsoittechnicallydoesn'tsolveanythingleastofallyourproblemsandmightmakeyoufeelWORSE/

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 12:16 PM

THEHAPPYTRADER


Interesting article, I used to avoid psychology because I couldn't take it seriously, seemed like a lot of guess work, but that has changed (perhaps not by a lot) sense I took my required psych classes and am soon to begin work teaching autistic children through a more psych based than teacher based program. Interesting thing about autism, the largest demographic comes from children born of caucasion mothers with college educations. I wonder if it's overdiagnosed?...

But, accurate diagnoses or not, I am looking forward to working as part of this program that is focused on tutoring and behavior modification rather than drugs, drugs, drugs!

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 1:19 PM

FREMDFIRMA



Yo, Happy ?
Since you seem to be a recent immigrant to RWED, posting-wise, at least, it'd be worth mentioning I got like twenty-some *years* of experience with that, dealing with folks so broken conventional pysch/med wrote them off completely.

I don't have time for a detailed brief, but there's some fairly universal methods and techniques which we came up with, that you might find useful.

Also, the DSM IV is prettymuch a handful of excuses to avoid saying "we don't know", and the DSM V is just a shill for Big Pharma, I think we all know this, but don't really wanna admit it.

-Frem

I do not serve the Blind God.

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 3:09 PM

THEHAPPYTRADER


Sure, I'd appreciate any insight into that from those with experience. In this program, the teachers like myself will be given intensively detailed 'lesson plans' with several points in which to take measurements. This kind of 'lesson plan' for lack of a better term, isn't like what I was trained to write but fortunately phd's are writing those for us and use the measurements we take to plot to course of future plans. Also, some of these phd types will be observing us every now and then and offering suggestions on how we can improve.

I'm excited because I'll get to focus my attention on students who really need it (and likely won't get in public schools) and it'll be a great way to learn how to work with these students. I'm a hands on guy, those years at the university didn't come close to what I learned in 3 1/2 months of student teaching.

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 4:26 PM

CANTTAKESKY


Quote:

Originally posted by Fremdfirma:
Also, the DSM IV is prettymuch a handful of excuses to avoid saying "we don't know", and the DSM V is just a shill for Big Pharma, I think we all know this, but don't really wanna admit it.

Some of us know it, and admit it happily.



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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 9:34 PM

RIONAEIRE

Beir bua agus beannacht


I think we can all agree that the DSM has problems. As someone who likes order and method I understand a need to categorize, but sometimes those categories don't work so well and leave a lot to be improved.

I do believe the time frames on some of those diagnoses are rutted up, especially when it comes to kids, I believe that something needs to be going wrong for a reasonable amount of time, in anyone, child or adult, before a diagnosis is made and medicine started. But of course intervention should be timely if needed, we need to find a place in the middle.

I hate those commercials too, so obnoxious, "Ask your doctor if ... is right for you". Errrrrrg.

As someone with an anxiety disorder myself I know that taking medicine isthe right decision for me. But I do agree that those pharmasuticals and their demands and money hunger are out of control.

As for sz and bipolar, duh, just spend a few days running the phones atNAMI (my main job) and you'll figure that out, the genetics can be quite similar.

That psychotic risk syndrome is a really bad idea, I don't think we should be putting labels and giving medicines unless they are needed. Of course I do think there is a place for preventative measures to a degree, its all about balllance in my opinion. Ultimately I want everyone with MI to be able to feel as safe and content and fulfilled as possible, in whatever form that comes in.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011 11:45 PM

MAGONSDAUGHTER


Couldn't agree more, Niki. The current DSM is completely over the top as it is. The way it's going we'll all have a disorder.

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Wednesday, February 2, 2011 3:55 AM

FREMDFIRMA



Well Riona, thing is, a proper behavioral diagnosis takes a minimum of ninety minutes of careful observation within a controlled environment, you see.

The notion of a doctor handing the parents a checklist and then prescribing meds IMHO, qualifies as malpractice.

I've seen it a million times, the school shakes down the parents, insisting the kid has ADD/ADHD, and makes vague and general threats (or not so vague and general, in some cases!) and the parent goes diagnosis-shopping to find a doctor willing to play along, which too many are - most schools even have a go-to-guy, like Dr. Richard Bacharach, MD - resulting in a 100% chance of getting that dianosis if desired.

And yes, I name names, that one in particular, there's a *history* there, and an ugly one, although thankfully I was never subject to his tender graces, that fell to Leaverton, and boy-howdy did that one get paid.
The latter sumbitch tried to foist off a highly-addictive psychotropic med (Thioridazine) on me under the fiction that it was an allergy med, something which I did not discover till finally losing patience with his dumb ass, called him "fulla shit" and walked out, only to see him grin tightly and insist that I would be back...

Now, mind you, that drug was removed from the market because it's withdrawl symptoms were so brutal as to induce not only tremendous physical suffering, but also resulted in additional psychological ailment, and not knowing this was anything more than something to assist with my food and pollen allergies, when in fact it was a very high dosage of something terribly addictive, you can imagine the results that came soon after the prescription ran out and I didn't renew it cause it'd mean talking to the bearded freak again, right ?

I'll spare you the details, but there was a reckoning there, oh yes there was.

Bear in mind, I was dumped on him as a condition of not being expelled for the heinous "crime" of self-defense against three larger punks, despite the event in question happening at 3:15pm and just off the property, which conveniently insulated them from responsibility - they'd NOT have intervened in a beatdown, cause several weeks prior to this they also watched from afar and didn't even call an ambulance till I hadn't gotten back up after twenty and some minutes, mainly cause bones were broken and a severely sprained ankle.
But boy-oh-boy did they come a-running when I started spilling blood the NEXT time those bastards had at me.
Cause how dare someone upset the natural pecking order, oh no, even if it did result in a needless death some months earlier....

Being classed as having a behavioral/conduct disorder just cause you're unwilling to take shit doesn't incline one to perceive most pysch docs as credible, don't you know.

All that said, a doctor of any kind, their PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITY, is a proper diagnosis, not a simple acceptance of statements from folks who may or may not be credible, because without that you cannot properly treat the patient - and to fail this can often result in the doctor being complcit in abuse and seen as an abuser themselves, which leads me to one thing I wanna point out to Happy, here...

Many of the really broken folk we've been able to help, could *NOT* be treated in conventional fashion because of that, thanks to their perception that conventional medical/psych personnel being complicit in the abuse that broke them, and became what I call psychologically iatrogenic - any attempt to treat them conventionally would just make them worse, especially with the same force-resistance-more-force model which was prevalent at the time, and still is to an offensive degree within parenting, schooling and treatment.

THOSE require special care and handling, something which I'll detail at need, it can be done, but you gotta come at it sideways.

Anyhows, any doctor who plays along for profit, or to avoid offending his customer base, fails to do his job correctly via negligence, laziness, greed or malice - is guilty of malpractice, hands down, and by handing out pyschotropic drugs on the say-so of a parent and/or school with every reason to lie, they demean the whole profession.

-Frem

I do not serve the Blind God.

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Wednesday, February 2, 2011 4:31 AM

FREMDFIRMA



Ok Happy, some reference stuff, in no particular order, cause I gotta go shovel this so-called blizzard a bit...

Firstoff, one of the things that goes first in someone with a psych issue is verbal communication, this is based in the fight-freeze-flight response by low level limbic system activation - lemme put it this way, say you and a friend are discussing politics and your car hits an ice patch and goes into a slide...
At that point CAN you continue the discussion, are you even ABLE to do so ?
No, because the brains survival complex has kicked that to the back burner in favor of things-that-might-help-you-survive.

Now, there's a scale to that, but one thing most often present with any pysch disorder, especially one triggered by abuse/neglect, or complicated by such - something sadly too often the case cause of how we treat folk with pysch issues, is that a certain level of that is prettymuch always going on, especially in a stressful environment like a school AND those symptoms match up too damn close with ADD/ADHD for anyone but an expert to tell.

You really, REALLY need to buckle down and chew hard into the work of Doctor Bruce D Perry, MD. and the CITIVAS initiative/childtrauma academy, they're lightyears ahead on this sorta thing, and the only folk who *might* know more would be in the Netherlands, and there's a language barrier problem with that...

Anyhow, primary rule one - what comes out of your mouth is often immaterial to them, they're not listening to your WORDS, they're watching your posture, your hands, your movements, non-verbal cues are extremely, extremely important when dealing with the broken.

Also, secondary triggers, sound and scent - the latter is *extremely* potent concerning memories, especially traumatic ones, if you don't believe me ask every one of your collegues if they can remember what their grade school smelled like.

You want a counter to it, try baking bread, fresh mown grass, or (and I have yet to find anyone with a nonpositive reaction to this one) laundry dryer exhaust - which is kinda funny cause I've also seen that trick pulled off by some upscale hotels, venting the laundry exhaust into the entryway during winter, which not only heats it but creates a certain psychological ease by sparking "home" memories.

The audio is more of a trial/error individual thing, but that came out of dealing with folks gone catatonic - which I discovered almost by accident was often in fact the OPPOSITE of what conventional psych at the time thought, a form of overload, rather than voluntary withdrawl to be shocked out of...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_defensiveness
Slipping a sleep mask on a catatonic in a soundproofed room seems almost counter-intuitive, but it worked - and one of the barely-perceptible audio tracks we use to good effect is this one.
http://www.amazon.com/Thundering-Rainstorm-Natures-Relaxing-Sounds/dp/
B000005T8C

It's backed up by celt harp and pan flute, no subliminals, and quite, quite effective at slowly drawing out someone gone catatonic.

Not sure it would be suitible for a classroom environment, but the whole Unsion series is well worth a look into for environmental aid in setting up a safe-comfort mindset - properly, it should be just on the very edge of audibility, to where you have to actually consciously listen to detect it at all.

One other, from empirical evidence, since I have no information as to whether this is by mental association or by actual effect - Brachs Starlight Mints.

One of my habits is to hand-offer one to someone in mental distress, mostly cause I've always, ALWAYS got them in my pockets, and the offer and acceptance of "food" is a bonding on a most primitive scale that slides beneath the higher functions and starts loading you towards the "friendly" mental category as opposed to "other", but also according to many the peppermint itself has a calmative effect, as does the visible evidence of someone actually giving a damn, then connected to a memorable sensory experience.
Again, this may be by proxy rather than scientific, but many of our former rescuees respond to lifes minor setbacks by popping a mint - to the point where it's kind of a meme around here.

Oh, and dunno what the guidelines and such might be, but american society in general does human empathy no favors with its physical isolation, which I can maybe understand within the hysteria caused when the scale of predatory behavior becomes apparent, but to avoid all contact is pyschologically damaging, I highly suspect.

Hell, without the "hug of life" I wouldn't have gotten very far, what with utterly no training and a base (and at the time really rabid) dislike of the whole psych profession and related industry - sometimes a mere touch is of trememndous benefit to someone in distress, like a log to the drowing, a HUMAN contact that transcends words and connects on a visceral, primitive level, again, sideways and underneath higher functions which may or may not be inoperative, misfiring, or even triggering hostile.

And that's all I can offer for the moment, save to suggest this thread as reference to how VI/CoTL came to be, and "what I do".
(ignore the thread title, the history comes in after a couple posts)
http://www.fireflyfans.net/mthread.asp?b=18&t=39794

-Frem

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Wednesday, February 2, 2011 7:33 AM

THEHAPPYTRADER


Thanks.

This program will be dealing exclusively with autism and children of military families (as that's were the approved govt money goes). Lessons will be taught 1 on 1 and scheduled in their own house, which is where some of the suck comes in for me. In general, the man's gonna be off in another country while his wife is home. As a result, clients often request a female tutor. (Oh, the burden of being a an attractive 20-somethin' male...) Of course, I'm no threat to anyone's marriage, but I guess they wouldn't know that. On the other hand, I'll be one of only 4 guys, so if a man actually is requested I'm not fighting 20 female co-workers for the job. Also, they said my musical training will give me priority with any child showing an interest in music. I'm not sure how common that will be amongst children with autism, but I'll take every little edge I can get.


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Wednesday, February 2, 2011 3:47 PM

RIONAEIRE

Beir bua agus beannacht


Frem, that is an unpleasant experience you had, I'm sorry about that, a lot of people get bogged down in pleasing other higher ups (schools etc.) and lose track of what they _should be doing in the profession. It is true that you need some time and lots of imput to come up with a proper diagnosis most of the time.

Oh, and I'm probably the only person on the planet who hates mints, actually my little brother does too, we're in the anti mint fan club. :)

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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Wednesday, February 2, 2011 4:31 PM

RIONAEIRE

Beir bua agus beannacht


Wow, Frem, I just read that post, that's an amazing story you have, probably very challenging but very rewarding work. What I really want to know is:
Which percentage of them recover fully or near enough, which percentage of them improve quite a bit, which percent of them end up touched and needing continual looking after into adulthood, which percentage of them end up in jail or worse, which percentage of them become the torturers themselves?
I don't know if you have such stats, probably not, but I would really be interested to know, maybe someday, in the future when I own my establishment, some of the touched ones will end up with us to live and be looked after.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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Wednesday, February 2, 2011 4:51 PM

BYTEMITE


Side note: Riona uses her own vocabulary and meanings, and means nothing offensive by "touched." She uses that to basically mean "like River," who she admires a great deal.


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Wednesday, February 2, 2011 7:03 PM

FREMDFIRMA



Well, I don't have exact stats, but lemme pull the files and see if I can throw an offhand estimate...

And Happy, actually you're gonna have a big, big edge being musically talented, something which I will explain in a bit here, I do know some things about dealing with Autism spectrum, mind.

But right now I gotta go slog through the snow in the interests of makin a buck and keepin the skells at bay - you'd THINK they'd have sense enough to leave well the hell alone in inclement weather, especially since that leaves tracks, but nooo - hell, the Sherrifs Dept gets to laugh up their sleeve every time they just follow the footprints and bag up the burglar neat as you please.
They don't come here at least, cause of creepy-cyborg dude...

-Frem

I do not serve the Blind God.

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Wednesday, February 2, 2011 7:10 PM

BYTEMITE


Watch out for ice, prosthetics plus ice is tricky business.

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Thursday, February 3, 2011 1:11 PM

FREMDFIRMA



Oh indeed it would be, if not for the alterations Ripper (a guy I know who does unofficial prosthetic mods) hadn't installed retractable spikes on the borgomatic, although those are mostly a backup measure, since I generally use these.
http://www.shoechain.com/prodSnoShuz.htm
They're right nice, come in a foil bag you can re-use so your pockets don't get all icky, and can be quickly slipped onto your boots easy as can be - they grip REAL good too, and without marking up the walks like spikes would.

Wendy on the other hand has these ginornimous overshoe-boots which come up past her knees cause she's so short, but she's not allowed to do rounds in heavy snow, she's just too bloody small for it to be safe, no matter how strong you are, or tough you are, with no leverage you'll be on your ass and/or stuck quick as anyone else.
This is cause last time, she *DID* get stuck, embarassingly so, and her attempts to get unstuck resulted in a headlong downhill slide and bounce, finally plowing into the lake behind this place which was thankfully well frozen over - you can imagine my dismay, especially considering what mighta been if the lake was a bit less frozen through, so ever since she's been forbidden to work in heavy snow, something which she expressed her dismay about by pelting me with snowballs from her yard as I went by - she was building a snowman, being nocturnal like me and all.

And that brings us to Rionas question - most of the hellcamp rescuees do ok, roundabouts maybe 70%
A few wind up having longterm issues better addressed by someone more skilled in that kind of care.
And we strongly, STRONGLY encourage them to go take the opportunity and restart a normal life, jump on the second chance and forget we ever existed...

Some few, some really rare few, can't let it go, and so I devised a multimedia presentation of what doing this work might entail, complete with heavy forewarnings that YOU DO NOT WANNA FACE THIS - most get the point, and of the remainder, most come out of said presentation badly shaken and needing a bit of follow up, and if still interested wind up doing the drudge work, paperwork and record searches, financial auditing, that sorta thing.
But the rarest of the rare, around say, half a percent, come out of that with a snarl and gleaming eyes, wanting more than anything in the world to BREAK these assholes - and mind you, these are not-very-nice people, as a general rule, a certain callousness, internal malice, is all but required to face things head-on, on a daily basis, that leave normal people messed up in the head just knowing/seeing.

We've *never* had one go camp stooge on us, although I have sent a few packing because they were friggin untreatable sociopaths, what happens to em then isn't our concern so long as they stay the hell away - but the notion of what I might *DO* to someone who went all stockholm and signed up with the bad guys (personally, mind, not as a matter of policy) is apparently sufficient to have ever prevented it.

Now, the other set, class-four, what we call write-offs, is a more grim picture.
These are folk completely written off as total basket cases by conventional treatment, requiring lifetime inpatient care, you see ?
I'd say around 5% make a full recovery, maybe 11% improve a bit - which is by itself far more than they'd have otherwise gotten - there's also kids like Wendy, who due to closet kid syndrome is always gonna be frail and have health issues, permanently damaged eyesight, and will require someone to look after her for the rest of her foreshortened lifespan, basically permanent irrecoverable damage type stuff.

You also gotta remember that we never had access to pharmaceuticals, so this is all just theraputic treatment, and most of THAT was in the beginning like clearing a minefield in the dark - the problem came from the breach of critical trusts, these kids were more or less renditioned by their own family to what amounted to a goddamn concentration camp, and thus had NO faith left in anyone, especially conventional treatment personnel cause they were either complicit or ineffective, not to mention said camps have their own staff of such quite willing to aid in the abuse.
That was where the showmanship of the way we originally went about it came in handy, although I didn't intitially realize that, though I did play pretty hard to it once I did - we'd come in and prettymuch SACK the damn place, and being foul tempered and extremely hateful toward those places I was pretty destructive about it short of setting the place on fire...
So, when this kid who has lost all hope, given up on even themselves, hears the commotion and suddenly there's some stranger in the doorway with a tire iron in one hand, and the other extended, offering a rescue, the moment they reach out and take that hand it forms a bond, one that gets a lot of reinforcement as they see the damage wreaked upon the place, and most especially as they are LEAVING, as hope dawns upon them once again.

Thing is, that bond is the ONLY thing that allows any treatment of someone gone psychologically iatrogenic, and it HAS to be done only BY that person, because otherwise the trust required for it to work simply isn't there, they clam up, bunker down, shut you out, you see ?
Ergo, I learned the only way I could, by doing, despite having effectively no credentials or actual study to begin with, although I've filled in gaps in that knowledge anywhere I could.

So I would say fairly effective, especially at actually fixing the root causes, rather than throwing a gloss and polish over it by treating symptoms like conventional psych.

And imma have to address the issue of Autism/Music and such a bit later, running low on time here, again...
Although I will say two things - Autistics hate, hate, HATE a lack of predictability (something presenting a unique challenge in an educational context) and are prone to ritual/soothing behaviors, therefore by scripting various interactions so that they ALWAYS happen the EXACT SAME WAY, and by reducing every possible bit of unpredictability, you can give them a solid mental bedrock from which they might feel a bit more comfortable exploring, you see ?

-Frem

I do not serve the Blind God.

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Thursday, February 3, 2011 1:21 PM

NIKI2

Gettin' old, but still a hippie at heart...


Wow, those were really great questions, Rion, I don't think anyone's ever asked them of Frem, certainly not since I've been here. And it's something we SHOULD have asked, as I found the answer fascinating.

Frem's encyclopedic on child abuse and everything related, and his experiences are amazing. We need MANY more like him, despite his modesty and caveats that he's not "mellow" enough (if you will ).

The statistics on those last groups are so sad; once again smoke comes out my ears at the thought of what people do to kids. Just 'cuz I love dogs as much as I do doesn't mean I'm immune to how kids are made "pets" to be abused at dickheads' convenience, and it tears me up just as much.

You know, Frem, not having drugs may well be a plus. The drugs that could/would be used for the kids you deal with might only fog things up and obscure the things one has to get to in order to truly help. "Trust" is the biggest, best drug in the world, and that's what you give 'em, and personal attention...in my book, those two are far more curatives than anything pharmacology can create!


Hippie Operative Nikovich Nikita Nicovna Talibani,
Contracted Agent of Veritas Oilspillus, code name “Nike”,
signing off




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Thursday, February 3, 2011 1:26 PM

WULFENSTAR

http://youtu.be/VUnGTXRxGHg


Yay.

More drugs.

What? Zoloft not enough?

Of course not.

Gotta have SOMETHING that makes the meaninglessness of your life feel more bearable.

Cus going out and actually making something of yourself is too damn hard.

Or, its just too damned hard to deal with the shit you've seen/been thru.

Or your kid is just TOO much to deal with.

Drug them too.

Better than actually LIVING.

And, before you start, I know what I'm talking about.

Heh. Im not some drug-head. What do you think makes me so damn interesting?

"Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies"



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Thursday, February 3, 2011 1:36 PM

NIKI2

Gettin' old, but still a hippie at heart...


Interesting? Not even slightly. If you were capable of grasping concepts, communicating, having something to actually SAY, maybe, but just posting videos and spouting slogans? Nah, terribly boring.
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Cus going out and actually making something of yourself is too damn hard.
No, obviously you DON'T know what you're talking about, so go back to your video fantasy world, please, and let us discuss reality. THAT's interesting, and these discussions are much more interesting withOUT you popping in and spewing one-liners which have no meaning.

You have NO idea what you're spouting about, so go back to the gun thread and enjoy yourself, please.

No, wait, I'LL just go, there's been too much of you doing your think the last couple of hours, I'm getting tired of it. How DO you manage to spend so much time here? Don't you have a job or anything? So strange...


Hippie Operative Nikovich Nikita Nicovna Talibani,
Contracted Agent of Veritas Oilspillus, code name “Nike”,
signing off




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Thursday, February 3, 2011 1:41 PM

RIONAEIRE

Beir bua agus beannacht


So, what I gather from that is that most of them do fine and finish with you guys and go off and do whatever, some take a little longer but do leave, some turn out to be "bad seeds" so to speak and they go off on their own and a few stay with you and need continual mannagement. So what percentage of them need continual looking after for, say, four years or more?

These are the types of questions I ask, because I'm interested in doing longterm care so I like to know demographically how that goal of mine compares to what the needs are in the world, I know how it is in more conventional situations but your situation and your demographics are unique. It sounds like you keep them with your organization though, because they feel safer etc. So I doubt any of them will need to come to me, it sounds like they are well kept with you guys.

I hope Wendy is enjoying the snow, but being careful so she doesn't have another fall.

Byte told me Frem that you don't have email here, that is okay, you can just tell me everything you can here.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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Friday, February 4, 2011 6:59 AM

FREMDFIRMA



*Fans hand fulla candy*

It's ok, my ex doesn't like mint either...

But I got Butterscotch, Cinnamon, whatever - hell, I'm notorious for it.
But most especially the Starlight mints, they've been iconic ever since I started taping them to MREs back when I was a quartermaster.

Anyhows, the answer to your question is, unfortunately not bloody many.

See, due to the extremes of their experience, most of those who wind untreatable or permanently damaged commit suicide - in fact, if you go through the list of those who "graduated" from such programs, the rate of suicide within one year thereafter is apallingly high.
We're not talkin cry-for-help, we're talkin damn-well-mean-it, wish to evacuate themselves from a world turned so ugly, memories so horrible, they can't cope, ever.

Valerie's fate will forever haunt me, not the least of which is the unanswered question of what might have happened on that trip, being that Strawn is a psycho and a molester, not to mention all around scumbag.
http://jamaica-gleaner.com/gleaner/20010816/cornwall/cornwall4.html
She took a running dive headfirst off a 35 foot balcony, straight into the concrete - that's not a cry for help.

And believe me, Strawn is a piece of work...

Want Your Kid to Disappear?
http://www.legalaffairs.org/issues/July-August-2004/feature_labi_julau
g04.msp


http://web.archive.org/web/20070626104054/www.youthrights.org/forums/s
howthread.php?t=1434


I've personally beaten a couple of his goons unconscious in my time, and had I not been in a hurry, the one I floored with a zapgun would have woken up in the trauma ward - I honestly couldn't say what mighta happened if I had ever caught that sumbitch myself, one on one.
But I digress....

Thing is, they either make it, or they don't - and there's really no stopping it when they really mean it like that, even the hellcamps are unable to prevent it despite having really draconian measures, check the casualty lists, and about 15% of em are suicides.

The few that need continual looking after, that's usually due to permanent physical damage, often brain damage from restraint asphixia (number one cause of death in those places) or from repeated beatings, malnutrition, dehydration, extreme neglect and isolation, etc.

Wendy is a special case, she's got this damn hikaru genji idea going on and seems bent on viewing me as potential mate rather than father figure, she *settles* for self-adopted daughter mostly, but not without a good bit of snark and grumbling, mind you.
And no, she fell by the back fence while trying to do security rounds, and then slid down that little hill there smack into the frozen lake when she started flailing instead of sitting tight and calling me to come get her cause she's stubborn and prideful, as if *I* have any room to talk on that one, yeah...
She's kinda mad about it though, especially after I had words with her about winging snowballs willy nilly through the complex where they might hit another residents property, especially as hard as she was throwing them.

Most of em that can, as I said, we strongly encourage to leave - this kinda work eats your soul, chews on you in ways I can't really describe right now being all half asleep and all.
We do place folk who have issues, usually with the sympathetic family members which arranged their rescue in the first place, and they do ok - or with folks we have vetted or know, remember I been at this for damn near thirty years, so we're talkin multiple generations here and suchlike.

And while I could arrange to discuss privately, I think it'd be more informative right here.

Also, I think I might have Wendys story round here somewhere, and if so imma post it after this piece.
You might enjoy it at that.

-Frem

I do not serve the Blind God.

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Friday, February 4, 2011 7:04 AM

FREMDFIRMA



Yep, here it is, it was during a discussion about something else, but I was pointing out that in my experience, females are far more pyschologically resilent, not sure that is provably the case overall, but they do seem to bounce back a hell of a lot better when rescued, that I will say.
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Anyhows, you wanna talk about tough women, listen to some of the RAWA girls at them orphanages, it wasn't like they be-bopped down to the local womens shelter, and that's some seriously badass desert out there, makes my rescue run through tecate look like a walk in the park, and it ain't like they just let em go neither, more than one slit throat among them stories, lemme tellya.

But there's many types of courage - it's one thing to be fearless when you're quick, tough, and skilled enough to apparently *still* be quite threatening from a damn wheelchair...
(And that WAS funny - "He wheeled towards me in a threatening manner!")

And yet there's also the courage to stay your hand when every ounce of you cries out to strike, and sometimes that's the hardest courage of all.
Watch Pans Labyrinth - Mercedes tremendous courage struck even my black heart, I could not have done that, and when she *did* strike damn she made it count.

But it's a whole nother ballgame entire when you're weak, helpless, unskilled, even ignorant of your options, or even that you have any.

And so, lemme explain about Wendy, a former DeVee who's insinuated herself somewhere between would-be paramour and self-adopted bratty daughter and shows no intent to budge.

Given what we know of early development, she had to have known love, once, probably before the development of linear coherent memory, but as a product of the Foster Care System she certainly has no memory of any - by all rights she should be a wolf-child, the usual result of what I call Closet Kid Syndrome, and damn us all that I even need a term for something so awful it shouldn't even exist.

All she knew for so very long was darkness, silence, hunger, it was ALL she knew, you understand - hell even a beating shows someone cares, cares enough to hate, but there's times that ain't nothing worse.. than nothing.

Who knows what started it, a memory, a sound, probably a scent of spring, since the girl has an amazing sense of smell, but at some point she up and decided she was gonna pick her time and go for it - completely unknowing of the fact that we had recently been called in by a concerned relative who was fearful that the girl was prolly buried in the back yard, who came to us after two years of trying to get someone, anyone, to investigate...

That's not a bash on the system, though I've got the right - so much as they didn't go about it well, had nothing to offer in the way of reason or evidence, and were very tenative for fear of bringing that system down upon their own heads, and finally in desperation went to the darker side and thankfully drew our attention before getting in over their heads with something unpleasant.

Now, I don't believe what other folks believe, but the situation as it unfolded simply defies any logical, rational explaination, longshots like that only happen in bad hollywood B-flicks, and it kinda offends my sense of a sensible reality to have that dropped on my head like an Acme Anvil from a merry melodies cartoon, mind you, call it fate, destiny, whatever, for the kid to pick THAT moment, to make her break, defies all sensibility, especially since she's never been able to explain or articulate why herself.

Hell, maybe it's a bright version of the dark wind that seemed to follow Jelly Brice, causing hardcore mobsters to instantly surrender when he showed up despite having no manner of knowing it... sorry, digressing...

Anyhows, so this tiny, quiet, badly malnourished and neglected girl picked her time and glory-rushed the door for all she was worth, and it was worth a LOT since she had just recently tipped into the age bracket where the berserkerang usually first manifests itself - I swear, the place looked like a bomb hit when they came to take evidence pictures, she went full bore zerk on the whole bloody place since she couldn't see to hit anything in particular.

Yeah, she has permanent vision damage, mind you, another aspect of Closet Kid Syndrome, but there's a real whiz optometrist here and we've been working with various lenses and filters, she's been real patient since this might help others down the road, though obviously it'd be better if there WEREN'T any others, but still, she can see ok only after sunset, and will never be able to drive a car, but she can SEE - which at that time, she could not, it was all one big, bright, loud blur to her, you see.

But using memory of footstep sounds from above, remembered layout, scent, hell, for all I know it was the friggin force, she made it to, and through, the front door, leaving it hanging on one badly bent top hinge, and hightailed it as fast as possible, somewhere, anywhere, just, AWAY - not even thinking to howl at the top of her lungs cause it never occured to her, all she knew, all she hoped, was that people weren't evil and SOMEONE would be there to rescue her if she could only get loose long enough for it to happen, the sheer STRENGTH of that belief, that courage, that she put her entire extistence on the line, so far as she knew, betting everything she had, little that it was, on simple human decency, despite never having known it in her own memory - what do you SAY to that ?

Even more bizarre, what do you say to that absolute surety, that certainty, when you happen to be the one who WAS there, and it makes utterly no sense to YOU ?

And so there's me, with nothin but a vague description to work with, doing a slow cruise-by and mentally marking out spots to place a couple observers to see who comes and goes, too cursed early and not completely mentally "with it" all that well quite yet - and WHAM, out that door comes this teensy girl who matches the vague description and has no other reason to be there, with one of the Fosters in hot, injured, angry pursuit...

One of my edges is being so quick on the uptake some folk take it for prescience, and before my brain caught up enough to sputter WTF? my reflexes were already in gear and active, snapped the wheel hard and heel stomped the brakes to swing the back end loose and cut the angle, reaching out and flicking the door latch as I locked the brakes up again to stop and fling the door wide - and yelled TAKE MY HAND! - she flailed for it, caught a grip like a set of visegrips and I hauled her into the car and took off so fast apparently they never even got a plate number, not that it woulda mattered so much later, but it did forestall any immediate problems that I was long and away GONE before the Fosters even thought to notify anyone - them bein reluctant for some damned obvious reasons.

I hadn't connected it cause imma dolt sometimes, and for me a certain degree of kindness is so automatic I don't even notice - but en route to a safe place, I thought to give her some food since she was so obviously malnourished, and woulda gone with somethin like a small set of chicken nuggets or something equally tiny and bland (I have far more experience than I ever wanted in dealing with really damaged people) but that she couldn't see complicated that, so I bought her a strawberry milkshake.
The girl has a thing for strawberries now that borders on a junkies need for a fix, cause apparently it's wired in as what freedom tastes like.

So we wound up getting her emancipated, via some rather unpleasant legal wrangling that left me with a bad taste in my mouth cause it didn't blacklist those evil gits from the list of potential Fosters, but at least it cut her loose of them, and she went through the usual recovery process as well as some stuff tailored to her specific problems - and incidentaly kinda speeded my retirement cause when I gave her the final exam for personal self defense she handed me my ass so bad she thought she'd killed me and started freakin out about it - I *did* mention she can zerk, right ?
And she's younger, faster and more agile - after ascertaining that I was ok and only mostly stunned and roughed up, that bastard Justin was laughing so hard he was in tears... prick.

Well, due to my physical condition and the recent ass-handing there, I was kinda desperate for someone to help cover site three, and after another girl didn't work out cause she was totally unsuited to the work, I asked Wendy if she would be willing to assist me even if it meant facing her greatest fears a little earlier than expected, and she said ok.

Not sure if I went into detail about this bit or not, but the ones who are not "ok" yet, they wear cat ears as a visible tell of this so that everyone we deal with knows to treat them with kid gloves, especially as part of the therapy needfully involves teaching them self-defense before they're safe to be around most folk cause it's an integral part of the recovery - the ears coming off is like a seriously big deal and usually at the end of a graduated reintro to "normal" society with little party and everything, see...
And that decision usually falls to the folk most involved in their recovery process - it's part of an old joke that caught on as a way to set a visible flag without makin em feel like lepers, is all.

So, I start training her to do security rounds, which she has natural talent for, and since she can walk to work, and can actually see, is something she can DO instead of feeling helpless - but there it is, the quiet, silent darkness she fears the worst, you see ?

And she was a bit skittish at first, but thing was, in that environment, it's HER world, where others are blind, she can see, where others are weak, she is strong, other people will look up to HER for protection and assistance in the cold, quiet darkness...

And she stops - I worry that she might be losing it, but she just has this perplexed look on her face, and finally she says in this itty bitty stunned voice.. "I don't have to be afraid anymore.", and then, again, bold and confident...

And she reaches up, pulls those ears off and hands em to me.
"And I will NEVER be afraid again."

I can be brave, I can be fearless, but I know it's a sham when more than half that courage is cause I happen to be slightly mad by any definition, and most of it has been mostly cause at the time I had nothin to lose, but yeah, I got some sand down there at the bottom of it all.

But I ain't even in the same class as that girl, not by a longshot - she took her own nightmare and conquered it, made herself it's ruler, instead of it's victim, and she took that last step, as she took the first one, of her own will and unassisted.

Kid's got more guts in her pinky than I got in my whole being, seriously.

I've heard and seen worse, but I figured I would relate hers cause she gave me permission and it has a happy ending and all - you cannot imagine how it made me feel to watch her take that final step, to watch it happen right in front of me.

Machismo means jack shit to someone who's seen real courage, often enough when folks paid for it with their life or worse, and frankly, for straight flat out and out courage in all of the more important non-physical ways ?
I'm betting on XX over XY - based on how many of each actually pull through.


We still argue over whether fate, chance or something else had me showing up in front of that house, at that moment - I say chance, she says fate...

-Frem

I do not serve the Blind God.

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Friday, February 4, 2011 10:26 AM

KANEMAN


Gawd, haven't we had enough threads on mental illness already? Gawd, it is SO boring. I think I'll use this dead time and go down to LA and clean some oily geese. Anyone care to donate a few dollars

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Friday, February 4, 2011 10:35 AM

WULFENSTAR

http://youtu.be/VUnGTXRxGHg




"One to make you big, one to make you small, one to make you sleep, one to make you not sleep at all... should you ever find youself uninteresting, boring, slow, and in need of a life.. take these pills and end your strife.. its not your fault at all, just life is so pall, so ignore it, and never feel small...

After all, why struggle and make something of yourself when these pill can make you important and laugh from the top shelf?

Dance to the thrill, twirl to the skill, we've got chemists to fix all your ills..

And if in doubt, we've got clout, we can name your sadnesses all about. Depression, bipolar, massive ego a stroller, we've got your story.

So take a pill, don't feel ill, and blame it all on your parents."

"Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies"



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Sunday, February 6, 2011 8:54 PM

RIONAEIRE

Beir bua agus beannacht


Well it sounds to me like she isn't touched, she stays there to work and because you're her paternal figure. I'm glad you've kept it paternal because if you hadn't my opinion of you would go down a few notches, just because of how you rescued her etc. So paternal is good. She sounds like an incredibly brave woman.

"A completely coherant River means writers don't deliver" KatTaya

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Monday, February 7, 2011 10:00 AM

NIKI2

Gettin' old, but still a hippie at heart...


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After all, why struggle and make something of yourself when these pill can make you important and laugh from the top shelf
Wulf, you're sun an ass...you don't know the first thing about it, and are incapable of understanding that those of us who've dealt with such things DO. I repeat; go back to your fantasies of a black-and-white world, you do better there.

As to "enugh threads about mental illness"...strangely, I wasn't aware we HAD that many. I get bored by both threads about guns and threads that are jacked into BECOMING threads about guns...and of those I KNOW we've had many. So go about your business and just ignore people talking about real world events that interest them, why don't you? As if you would, when something your'e not interested in gives you the opportunity to snark at people...


Hippie Operative Nikovich Nikita Nicovna Talibani,
Contracted Agent of Veritas Oilspillus, code name “Nike”,
signing off




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Monday, February 7, 2011 10:01 PM

MAGONSDAUGHTER


Amazing story, Frem. You should write a book.

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Tuesday, February 8, 2011 5:29 AM

BYTEMITE


I say that all the time.

You know Frem, you could always write AROUND the sensitive information, and put it in later when it's no longer an issue for whatever reason.

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Wednesday, February 9, 2011 2:06 AM

KANEMAN


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Originally posted by Magonsdaughter:
Amazing story, Frem. You should write a book.




Hey dip-shit, where do you think he gets his stories?

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Wednesday, February 9, 2011 3:52 AM

FREMDFIRMA



I thought about it, but discarded the idea for a couple reasons, not the least of which is that I would consider the world a much better place if they forgot the hellcamps ever even existed.

Besides, I'd rather leave the world a legacy of treating our young better, than a monument to arrogance, which is kinda what that'd be - our upcoming generations deserve a future that's more than the sum of our failures.

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