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Perhaps you coudl start by explaining to you r borther that you really understand that he wants everything to be perfect, and that you do too.

And in order for things to be perfect, it's impostant to make arrangements for those who are less physiacally able than him, to ensure there aren't any hiccups / unforeseen problems.

So, maybe they can arrange to have some chairs available so that those people who are standing around for photos can sit down whilst they aren't being photographed, or maybe during some photos. And your daughter needs her wheelchair - perhaps it could be decorated in flowers to match the bridal flowers. that way it won't stand out.

And as for Alex - that really is unfair. Perhaps explain to your brother that Alex is wondering why he is the only one without a suit, and he would really like to wear one. See what your brother sys then.

Maybe talk to your brother while his fiancee is there - it's their day not just his. It may be that she will be a bit more empathetic.

Anyway, just a thought.

so they can be taken care of nt to make sure that those who are not as able bodies as he is

R1Z, "twat" in England means jerk. And it ryhmes with 'cat', not 'knot'.

The things I've learned from Shaun of the Dead...;)

Serenitypunk, your brother sounds like a real ass. It may be "his day", but that doesn't mean he can treat others however he wants. I wouldn't blame you in the least if you didn't go to the wedding.

i noted you are looking for "proper" accesories. might i suggest a serenity button? or perhaps a browncoats bracelet?
*titters*

Just keep repeating, "This, too, shall pass."

Oh, and by the way, over here "twat" is a vulgar euphemism for a portion of the female anatomy.

Are you sure you don't mean "twit"?

Patience.

Take care of your child, and tell your brother to "treat others how he would want to be treated." if he doesn't have a change of heart, take your child out of the ceremony, and leave your brother hanging. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but after reading this thread he deserves it.

Take care of your little girl. She is your first priority. If anyone tries to make her stand for too long tell them to screw off.

Otherwise, this is one day in your life. As much as it may suck, grit your teeth, smile pretty, and wake up the next morning knowingyou didn't do or say anything wrong.

Try to have fun, and think of it this way . . .he'll be a bit more out of your hair now that he'll have a new wife to pay attention to.

Oh man. Your brother sounds like a client from Hell to me. As my business partner would say, "He's worse than a woman when it comes to this."

I'm a wedding videographer, but after this summer, I'm thinking of only taking jobs if prospective brides actually call me about it. Weddings are such a stressful, high tension thing to be a part of. It's like walking on eggshells in a mine field. And I have had more than my share of doing videos were the brides are all angry and pissy and end up not paying me at all (that last part is where it really hurts. I'm a uni student, and thus broke as Hell), so I share your pain tenfold, man.

From the sounds of it, I'm sure he and his bride'll be signing divorce papers soon.