Its Official My Brother is an idiot (edited to stop arguements)
Saturday, August 20, 2005

What is it with weddings that bring out the evil in people, now my brother, has always been arrogant, big headed and generally unlikeable. if he was in a room of 20 people he is the one you would hear above all others...

So now some woman has agreed to marry him, my feelings towards her shall remain unspoken, for now

But this wedding is going to give my poor mother heart failure. Scott is so ungrateful and unthinking, firstly she has made the wedding cake, including making all the iceing flowers and sprays etc, its stunning, my brothers reaction, 'well its better than i thought it would be I suppose' I have never been so shocked in my life....

He has continued in this im going to be an arse kind of way over my children and their roles in this wedding. Chloe is to be bridesmaid. which is fine, beautiful dress, lovely shoes, stunning, scott although seems to forget chloe has CHD and only has half a working heart, cannot walk very far, and needs to sit down or she will fall down. he tried banning me from bringing her wheelchair, told me she was going to HAVE to walk down the aisle and stand behind them until the hours ceremony is over, then stand around for another 2 hours for photos. you can imagine my reply to this. it had swear words in it and was a round about way of saying, as if!!
He is insisting that she comes to julies house on the morning of the wedding to get dressed, but im not allowed to stay around, so basically i have to drop her off in a house full of strangers who have no idea why this little girl might suddenly go blue and need to sit down.

he is also insisting that i go up a day early, drive 2 hours to get to our hotel, then drive another 30 minutes to the church so chloe can be at the rehersal, all this after school. she dosnt need to be at the rehearsal!

then we get to alex, who they havnt even bothered to hire a suit for, and refused my offer of hire for him. they got him a shirt and trousers, and want him to be an usher. alex now is left wondering why he is the only male without a suit, and i cant help but wonder the same thing, but of course scott is very evasive when i ask.
I know this is his wedding day, but does he have to be so unreasonable all the time, im also taking our grandparents, who are very very old and he is expecting them to wait around afterwards for photos, without chairs.

Im stressed out, he had my mother in tears over this rehersal business. I know he wants it to be a perfect day, but nothing is ever perfect and sometimes you have to accomodate other peoples needs and think of someone other than yourself. im seriously considering not even going at all.

Im going to stop now before i bust an artery myself.

Oh add to the fact he told me what I would and would not wear to his wedding, now that bugged me.

ive got a suitably disgusting wedding type outfit that i hate, that he will surely love. but you know, ive still got time to customise it with some punkish accessories.


Sunday, August 21, 2005 9:04 PM



Saturday, August 20, 2005 9:14 PM


Perhaps you coudl start by explaining to you r borther that you really understand that he wants everything to be perfect, and that you do too.

And in order for things to be perfect, it's impostant to make arrangements for those who are less physiacally able than him, to ensure there aren't any hiccups / unforeseen problems.

So, maybe they can arrange to have some chairs available so that those people who are standing around for photos can sit down whilst they aren't being photographed, or maybe during some photos. And your daughter needs her wheelchair - perhaps it could be decorated in flowers to match the bridal flowers. that way it won't stand out.

And as for Alex - that really is unfair. Perhaps explain to your brother that Alex is wondering why he is the only one without a suit, and he would really like to wear one. See what your brother sys then.

Maybe talk to your brother while his fiancee is there - it's their day not just his. It may be that she will be a bit more empathetic.

Anyway, just a thought.

so they can be taken care of nt to make sure that those who are not as able bodies as he is

Saturday, August 20, 2005 2:44 PM


R1Z, "twat" in England means jerk. And it ryhmes with 'cat', not 'knot'.

The things I've learned from Shaun of the Dead...;)

Serenitypunk, your brother sounds like a real ass. It may be "his day", but that doesn't mean he can treat others however he wants. I wouldn't blame you in the least if you didn't go to the wedding.

Saturday, August 20, 2005 1:00 PM


i noted you are looking for "proper" accesories. might i suggest a serenity button? or perhaps a browncoats bracelet?

Saturday, August 20, 2005 11:57 AM


Just keep repeating, "This, too, shall pass."

Oh, and by the way, over here "twat" is a vulgar euphemism for a portion of the female anatomy.

Are you sure you don't mean "twit"?


Saturday, August 20, 2005 10:52 AM


Take care of your child, and tell your brother to "treat others how he would want to be treated." if he doesn't have a change of heart, take your child out of the ceremony, and leave your brother hanging. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but after reading this thread he deserves it.

Saturday, August 20, 2005 10:18 AM


Take care of your little girl. She is your first priority. If anyone tries to make her stand for too long tell them to screw off.

Otherwise, this is one day in your life. As much as it may suck, grit your teeth, smile pretty, and wake up the next morning knowingyou didn't do or say anything wrong.

Try to have fun, and think of it this way . . .he'll be a bit more out of your hair now that he'll have a new wife to pay attention to.

Saturday, August 20, 2005 8:31 AM


Oh man. Your brother sounds like a client from Hell to me. As my business partner would say, "He's worse than a woman when it comes to this."

I'm a wedding videographer, but after this summer, I'm thinking of only taking jobs if prospective brides actually call me about it. Weddings are such a stressful, high tension thing to be a part of. It's like walking on eggshells in a mine field. And I have had more than my share of doing videos were the brides are all angry and pissy and end up not paying me at all (that last part is where it really hurts. I'm a uni student, and thus broke as Hell), so I share your pain tenfold, man.

From the sounds of it, I'm sure he and his bride'll be signing divorce papers soon.


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