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Sunday, December 23, 2012 9:24 AM

CHRISISALL


Yeah, Tony's been dumped on big time. I've been there a couple of times myself, my own answer was just to say to myself that some topics draw irrationality, nuthin' you can do about it.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 10:03 AM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.


That part of the discussion seemed rather pointless, so I stayed out for the most part. But I'm kinda curious if MAL'S characterization of Tony is based on the fact that he is male and owns a gun, or if it's a reaction to Tony's attitude. So here I am... gun owner and female. What then?

Yanno, this topic really brings out the emotions in people. A lot of irrational things are being said.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 10:15 AM

CHRISISALL


Quote:

Originally posted by SIGNYM:
A lot of irrational things are being said.

Yeah, some people just throw pies.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 11:04 AM

NIKI2

Gettin' old, but still a hippie at heart...


Cav, I never once considered Anthony as part of that stereotype. I was talking about the stereotype itself--and no, not the stroking part, but the stereotype that guns are "manly" and some men see them that way (and I think more do UNconsciously). Nothing more.

I certainly should have spoken up that characterizing Anthony that way was gross and disgusting, I wouldn't say that about anyone. I got involved in the generalization about men, guns, "manly" etc., which I think for some people is valid. It doesn't apply to Anthony at all, and I should have taken a second to point out how abhorrent the comment was, because it was unquestionably repugnant--doubly so when tossed at Anthony. I got caught up in trying to explain myself and neglected to address that part, which I do now and I think it's revolting.

I was coming from a completely different place, which I don't seem to have been able to communicate. I DO think there is a valid issue about some men and guns with regard to "manhood"...nobody here, male or female, with one possible exception, but it is an issue which I think comes into play when guns are discussed.

All in all I agree; just like politics and religion, discussing guns seems to rile some people up. It doesn't seem to be a subject which can be discussed rationally, and given we can never seem to get past the idea some have that ANY regulation on guns means all their guns are going to be taken away, I guess it's pretty useless to even try discussing it. We've gone seven pages on just this thread alone, and has anyone changed their mind about anything relating to the subject? I don't think so...

Tit for tat got us where we are today. If we want to be grownups, we need to resist the ugliness. If we each did, this would be a better reflection on Firefly and a more welcome place. I will try.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 11:37 AM

HKCAVALIER


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Originally posted by Niki2:
I certainly should have spoken up that characterizing Anthony that way was gross and disgusting, I wouldn't say that about anyone. I got involved in the generalization about men, guns, "manly" etc., which I think for some people is valid. It doesn't apply to Anthony at all, and I should have taken a second to point out how abhorrent the comment was, because it was unquestionably repugnant--doubly so when tossed at Anthony. I got caught up in trying to explain myself and neglected to address that part, which I do now and I think it's revolting.

Thanks, Niki. Well said.

HKCavalier

Hey, hey, hey, don't be mean. We don't have to be mean, because, remember, no matter where you go, there you are.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:11 PM

FREMDFIRMA



BYTE:
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it's about rejecting the stereotype wholesale for a saner society.

Amen to that!

HKCAV:
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Men buying fancy sports cars to "compensate" for their "endowments" is a stereotype.

And one I've recently gotten to laugh at - my ex calls my bitty-beamer my "midlife crisis car", which I get all too much amusement out of since part of her reaction there is HER wanting the bloody thing (I've actually left it to her in my will) which means her mockery is also self directed.
We have much fun mocking gender sterotypes since so many of the "male" ones apply to her, and the "female" ones apply to me, and we can and do go out of our way to wind people up about that when we get the chance, meh heh heh.

Gus also looooves skewering the hell out of racial stereotypes, but some of the degrees to which he goes with that make me uncomfortable, him and his crew have never really understood how passionately I hate the N-word, having made pact with myself back in the 70's to never, EVER let it come out of my mouth ever, nor voluntarily allow it spoken in my presence.

Anyhows, Sacred Cows make great cheeseburgers, just so ya know.

-F

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:15 PM

MAL4PREZ


Quote:

Originally posted by BYTEMITE:
M4P: I don't know how to say this politely... What you're saying sounds WRONG to me. Worth by the size of a BRA? By the size of dick, johnson, whatever abrupt and crude term you want to use to shock and startle us into, what, agreeing with you when you're acting like this?

Wow. Missed the irony much? Worth as defined by cup size, penis size, or gun size is all stupid. That's my point. Thank you for agreeing.

But demanding that big guns be prevalent so that a scared person has something to cling to does nothing but make us all less safe. Reality backs this up in more ways than I care to deal with here, because if you haven't seen it yet you just won't.

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You aren't afraid of the size of our sex traits. You're afraid of death. In your fear of death you are projecting questionable issues on all of us and lashing out at poor Anthony.
Bullshit. Anthony, bless his soft-spoken classy heart (I mean that 100%) is the poor schmoe representing fear here. He fears the "constabulary", so he won't give up his big guns, no matter that those guns were just used to slaughter children.

I realize completely that Anthony is a stand-up guy, and I'll buy him more than one frosty brew is I ever meet him real life, but I'll never stop fighting against what I see as the root of the violence-obsessed insanity of America. It's got its teeth in him, sadly.

And yes, fuck you all, it is a male thing. Not because men are inherently bad, but because our messed up social insanity trains these poor men to deal with their issues through violence.

You don't believe me? Just how many of these mass killings are done by men, rather than women? Hell's ya, it's gender issue. Again: I don't believe it's inherent. I believe it is trained. And I really really want to break that training.

Violence/threat of violence is not necessary to one's personal security. Do you disagree with that, Anthony? Can you ever be secure without your big guns?

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:15 PM

MAL4PREZ


Quote:

Originally posted by BYTEMITE:
I don't have a side. As usual?



Do you mean this seriously? Cause...

da-amn.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:18 PM

MAL4PREZ


Quote:

Originally posted by AnthonyT:

First of all, it has been made about me. This stereotype isn't "Out there." It's in the minds of people like Mal. She is utterly incapable of dealing with me or any gun owner except through the lens of that stereotype.

No, I view you mostly as a cool guy, but when this topic comes around I see you saying that you can only be secure if you have a gun as big as the other guy.

So?

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:21 PM

MAL4PREZ


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Originally posted by SIGNYM:
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Hello,

First of all, it has been made about me. This stereotype isn't "Out there." It's in the minds of people like Mal. She is utterly incapable of dealing with me or any gun owner except through the lens of that stereotype.



MAL... I'm a gun owner, would you deal with me the same way you would deal with Tony?


Do you feel that the only way to achieve peace is through having a big gun?

Do you feel that your right to have as big and scary a gun as makes you happy trumps everyone else's right to live in a safe society?

Do you feel that you are completely, 100% safe as long as the metal in your hands is the most high-powered deadly thing available and you've got access to as much of it as you need to take all those evil MF's out?

If so, I'd say you were stroking your gun phallus.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:30 PM

BYTEMITE


Quote:

Originally posted by MAL4PREZ:
Quote:

Originally posted by BYTEMITE:
I don't have a side. As usual?



Do you mean this seriously? Cause...

da-amn.



Yes. I don't own guns and I don't care about the gun control argument one way or another. I don't know the difference between an assault weapon and a semi-assault weapon or a shell or a magazine or a cartridge or whatever. I don't care. So whenever you guys argue for one rule or another that might solve this situation, I don't even know what you're talking about. It sounds like a foreign language.

As for your other point, it's not men only. Look up Annie Palmer, Colleen LaRose, women suicide bombers in the middle east, Phoolan Devi, who committed a massacre against an entire village and then was elected to the Indian Parliament. A number of normally sane humans are one bad day away from gunning down their family, and the mentally ill have an even higher risk. We're all violent and tenuously balancing on the edge, I'm INSANELY violent. More so than Anthony, far more, and I'm female.

So, in your own words, fuck that. All you're getting by insisting on a sexist categorization of violence is people questioning how committed you are to other kinds of double standards.

Anthony might be afraid of the police, but you equate Anthony with murder and death and "phallus worshiping male violence" just because he has a gun. You equate Sig with that as well. You are afraid of guns As MUCH as Anthony is afraid of police. The only difference is that Anthony hasn't claimed that you're masturbating yourself with your fear. It should be readily apparent to everyone in this thread that such a claim applies to NO ONE in this thread and is and completely outlandish.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:41 PM

ANTHONYT

Freedom is Important because People are Important


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No, I view you mostly as a cool guy, but when this topic comes around I see you saying that you can only be secure if you have a gun as big as the other guy.

So?



Hello,

You persist in only being able to see my argument in a single light. I don't have an arming policy that requires me to personally match the size of the other guy's gun. So your insistence of an analogy to manly insecurities is not only insulting, it's wrong.

Unilateral disarmament shifts the balance of power against the people while failing to address the problem of weapons deemed too dangerous for circulation in our communities.

Mutual disarmament is the only solution that actually addresses the problem.

How hard is that to understand?

--Anthony


Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:43 PM

CHRISISALL


Quote:

Originally posted by MAL4PREZ:
If so, I'd say you were stroking your gun phallus.


[Jack Carter voice]
SERIOUSLY?!?!?!

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:56 PM

CHRISISALL


Quote:

Originally posted by AnthonyT:

Mutual disarmament is the only solution that actually addresses the problem.

How hard is that to understand?


Not so hard, man.

Holy crap... hard... man... will I get accused of stroking my piece??

Calgon, take me away!

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 3:57 PM

ANTHONYT

Freedom is Important because People are Important


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Do you feel that the only way to achieve peace is through having a big gun?

Do you feel that your right to have as big and scary a gun as makes you happy trumps everyone else's right to live in a safe society?

Do you feel that you are completely, 100% safe as long as the metal in your hands is the most high-powered deadly thing available and you've got access to as much of it as you need to take all those evil MF's out?

If so, I'd say you were stroking your gun phallus.



Hello,

This describes exactly 0% of anyone speaking to you in this thread.

You have no idea how incredibly frustrating it is to argue with you when the only ideas you see are the ones you construct in your own mind as those of a phantom opponent.

--Anthony


Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 5:02 PM

CHRISISALL


Quote:

Originally posted by BYTEMITE:
You are afraid of guns As MUCH as Anthony is afraid of police. The only difference is that Anthony hasn't claimed that you're masturbating yourself with your fear


BYTEMITE=the voice of reason on this thread IMO.

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Sunday, December 23, 2012 8:24 PM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.


Quote:

Do you feel that the only way to achieve peace is through having a big gun?
No
Quote:

Do you feel that your right to have as big and scary a gun as makes you happy trumps everyone else's right to live in a safe society?
No
Quote:

Do you feel that you are completely, 100% safe as long as the metal in your hands is the most high-powered deadly thing available and you've got access to as much of it as you need to take all those evil MF's out?
No

Do I think that is a stereotype of manliness?

Gonna get in trouble here, but... maybe.
Men are expected to prove themselves through risk and - if necessary- violence. While many victims suffer from PTSD, men more often reach for a gun to assuage panic and dread. Men dominate through intimidation and violence. In addition, men are encouraged to be independent individuals... pathologically so, I believe. I think all of those factors together make men more prone to view violence as "the solution" and not "the problem". Even insane mass shooters are exclusively men.

Do I equate that with stroking a phallus?

No, not really. The men who are most adamant about keeping their guns are the ones who express the highest levels of fear. (Parenthetically, women who express the highest levels of fear are more adamantly against unrestricted gun ownership.) Frem and Wulf came by their PTSD honestly; early abuse taught them dread. I don't understand where Tony's fear comes from; I think it was taught to him at his father's knee and he carries it forward.

So, back to my other point: Men more often than women tend to look on violence as "the solution" instead of "the problem". Obviously it doesn't apply to all men and all women, but an honest look at gun deaths specifically (and violent crime in general) will support that generalization. I don't think that is a stereotype as much as a fact.






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Sunday, December 23, 2012 9:30 PM

BYTEMITE


I agree with your thoughts about this gun-stroking thing, Sig. But I'm troubled though by this idea that men are either inherently or trained to be more violent than women.

It's an idea that's persisted european and asian culture for thousands of years, and it's the same idea that suggests that women are the "fairer sex." That women require men to protect them, fight their battles for them, die for them. That women belong in the household because they're "nurturing" instead of "violent" and so are better interacting with children. It's an idea of gender roles that I must reject.

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Monday, December 24, 2012 1:09 AM

PIRATENEWS

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Texas School District Allows Concealed Carry to Protect Students:



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Monday, December 24, 2012 3:37 AM

ANTHONYT

Freedom is Important because People are Important


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Even insane mass shooters are exclusively men.


Hello,

Not quite.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jennifer_San_Marco

--Anthony


Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz

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Monday, December 24, 2012 4:25 AM

ANTHONYT

Freedom is Important because People are Important


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Frem and Wulf came by their PTSD honestly;


Hello,

I wonder what a dishonest method of having post traumatic stress would be?

And I wonder if, when someone has something bad happen to them repeatedly, and to the people around them repeatedly, it can grow beyond someone's individual trauma and be considered an observation about the world?

I worry that people continuously dismiss Frem's 'problem' as being the product of his special pain, rather than acknowledging that he lives in a world where these sorts of things have happened with an appalling sense of the routine... and that HIS world is part of OUR world, not some construct of his imagination and not some inconvenient psychological tick.

--Anthony


Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz

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Monday, December 24, 2012 5:56 AM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.


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And I wonder if, when someone has something bad happen to them repeatedly, and to the people around them repeatedly, it can grow beyond someone's individual trauma and be considered an observation about the world?
Son, I grew up in the house of PTSD, not only from my dad but also my husband. They both lived through indescribable horrors - my dad especially- that would prolly top anything you have to offer on the topic. And I can't tell you the number of times I've been told that the reason for all the craziness is because of "them". It can sound pretty convincing. Heck, parts of it are even true.

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I worry that people continuously dismiss Frem's 'problem' as being the product of his special pain, rather than acknowledging that he lives in a world where these sorts of things have happened with an appalling sense of the routine... and that HIS world is part of OUR world, not some construct of his imagination and not some inconvenient psychological tick.
Drive down any average street, in any city. The world you live in is quite often the world you choose to live in. Are you looking to score? Then you'll only see one thing. Are you looking for your boyfriend? You'll see something else. Traffic engineer? Bicyclist? Looking forward to going home? Dreading going to school? Autistic? A child going to the mall to see Santa?

The world presents a multivariate experience. We humans filter what we are trained to see, according our past experience. Frem's experience is part of the larger whole, but it is not the whole thing.

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Monday, December 24, 2012 6:12 AM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.


The problem with accepting men as more violent - by nature- and women as more nurturing- places women in the "second class citizen" category permanently, and children are even lesser than that. So sayeth biology.

But woman have a strength that men don't have (as much, it needs to be beaten into them during moments of high stress) and that is the natural act of cooperation. The minute women became isolated from each other and divided up into men's homes, they lost the capacity to think and organize differently. Perhaps we need to revive the Beguinage

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At the start of the 12th century, some women in the Low Countries lived alone and devoted themselves to prayer and good works without taking vows. At first there were only a few of them, but in the course of the century, their numbers increased. This was the age of the Crusades, and the land teemed with widowed women—the raw material for a host of neophytes. These single women tended to live on the fringe of towns, where they attended to the poor. About the beginning of the 13th century, some of them grouped their cabins together to form a community, called Beguinage.

The Beguine were not nuns; they did not take vows, could return to the world and wed if they chose, and did not renounce their property. If one was without means, she neither asked nor accepted alms, but supported herself by manual labour, or by teaching the children of burghers. During the time of her novitiate, she lived with "the Grand Mistress" of her cloister, but afterward she had her own dwelling. If she could afford it, she was attended by her own servants. She was bound to her companions by having the same goals in life, kindred pursuits, and a community of worship.

They had no mother-house, nor common rule, nor common general of the order; every community was complete in itself and fixed its own order of living


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Monday, December 24, 2012 6:23 AM

ANTHONYT

Freedom is Important because People are Important


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Son


Hello,

Hello Daughter. I trust this is some religious/spiritual thing, and not that you are talking down to me in a dismissive fashion. We are all Sons and Daughters of the Universe or some such?

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I grew up in the house of PTSD, not only from my dad but also my husband. They both lived through indescribable horrors - my dad especially- that would prolly top anything you have to offer on the topic. And I can't tell you the number of times I've been told that the reason for all the craziness is because of "them". It can sound pretty convincing. Heck, parts of it are even true.


So it seems you grew up in a world of people you considered to have a damaged perception of reality. People whose reasoning and vision of the world you found untrustworthy.

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We humans filter what we are trained to see


Yes, this is probably true of all of us. At times, I feel that anyone whose perception of the world differs from your own is dismissed. Everyone who thinks differently is sick or fooled or damaged or deranged. It might be true sometimes, but I don't think it's true as often as you think it is. If we filter the worlds we look upon, I wonder what filter you apply.

--Anthony










Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz

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Monday, December 24, 2012 6:37 AM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.


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So it seems you grew up in a world of people you considered to have a damaged perception of reality. People whose reasoning and vision of the world you found untrustworthy.
Trustworthy sometimes, but not all the time

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Yes, this is probably true of all of us. At times, I feel that anyone whose perception of the world differs from your own is dismissed. Everyone who thinks differently is sick or fooled or damaged or deranged. It might be true sometimes, but I don't think it's true as often as you think it is. If we filter the worlds we look upon, I wonder what filter you apply.
Often what I find is true but incomplete.

My personal goal... one which I will never achieve before I die... is to filter as little as possible. It is something that I'm really horrible at. But when people "see" things that I don't see.... come up with insights that are so unexpected but ring so true they change my mental landscape .... well, that's a privilege. I realize quite often that the reason why I didn't "see" the same thing.... although the same evidence was laid in front of me... was because the connections between that data crossed assumptions which are so automatic they impose their own organization, even when it doesn;t make any sense.

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Monday, December 24, 2012 6:40 AM

ANTHONYT

Freedom is Important because People are Important


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But woman have a strength that men don't have


Hello,

Ah, the ability to endure childbirth, no doubt.

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and that is the natural act of cooperation.


I see.

--Anthony


Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz

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Monday, December 24, 2012 6:53 AM

BYTEMITE


I find it as unlikely that men don't have strength in cooperation as I do that women do not really have physical strength.

None of this, none of the history and actions of either gender makes sense if this were true. Ultimately the genders are more similar than they are different.

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Monday, December 24, 2012 9:07 AM

JO753

rezident owtsidr


Therez a well established cauzation and correlation between testosterone and violent behavior.

Gender differencez in co-operation iz an interesting subject. Woud we still be living in cavez if women didnt force greater levelz uv co-operation on men?

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Monday, December 24, 2012 10:05 AM

ANTHONYT

Freedom is Important because People are Important


Quote:

Originally posted by JO753:
Therez a well established cauzation and correlation between testosterone and violent behavior.




Strange but True: Testosterone Alone Does Not Cause Violence
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=strange-but-true-test
osterone-alone-doesnt-cause-violence


Hello,

Violence is more complicated than you think.

--Anthony

Note to Self:
Raptor - woman testifying about birth control is a slut (the term applies.)
Context: http://tinyurl.com/d6ozfej
Six - Wow, isn't Niki quite the CUNT? And, yes, I spell that in all caps....
http://tinyurl.com/bdjgbpe
Wulf - Niki is a stupid fucking bitch who should hurry up and die.
Context: http://tinyurl.com/afve3r9

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” -T. S. Szasz

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Monday, December 24, 2012 10:59 AM

BYTEMITE


^Friggin' yes.

People need to stop quoting all those old 1950s to 1970s evolutionary psychology studies that they made their conclusions based on what they expected to find. It's all junk science.

Estrogen can also increase aggression and violent tendencies. (Insert PMS joke here) But it's only tendencies, it's not direct causation for either testosterone or estrogen. Which is to say, personality and environment are the big drivers, not inherent chemical makeup.

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Monday, December 24, 2012 11:49 AM

FREMDFIRMA


Quote:

Originally posted by chrisisall:
BYTEMITE=the voice of reason on this thread IMO.


And that's just plain scary, it is...

Also, while my view of the world comes from the sewers of our society, as mentioned those sewers ARE part of that society, and I am fully aware of the wider world that encompasses them, which is obvious in my deep seated NEED, almost compulsion, to protect those persons and sections unsullied by it.

But that point about worldview acceptance brings to mind a phenomenae I first considered back in the mid-80s after hearing Andrew Vachss's speech on Lifestyle-Violent Juveniles, the notion of dismissing a teens viewpoint of the world - from their perspective as a mental aberration or illness, I thought then, and still do, that at least SOME part of that was due to the filters adults build up against those things, especially the myriad of petty injustices, that make them invisible to the adult in question.
So then it occured to me that instead of dismissing the kids worldview and considering them mentally disturbed for having it, might be we should take a good hard look at whether or not the fact supported the view they were expressing, and maybe do something about it instead of flaming them for daring to point out the things we blind ourselves to!

That was actually kind of what set off Becca before I chased her away for following the idiotic advice of her local girl posse - she discovered that all those lies she was told about how the world was, and found out that yes, there really WERE people who didn't have enough to eat, and was horrified by this - I can only hope that she's found some other route to help them, cause she really did mean it, but prior to that point she had accepted her parents assertions that it was a myth, you see ?

I get really snippy about that whole No-Such-Thing attitude cause when I first took on the Hellcamps, and as a side issue, abuse within Religion, that is exactly what the first stone wall I ran into was.

Also, alternate perspective is amazingly useful, case in point that Don't-Tase-Me-Bro thread where despite it being in plain sight, not one person noticed the Taser being pointed right in that kids face at eye level, till it was pointed out to them - multiple viewpoints on a topic are very damned useful, and I am all for it, which is why I get irritated when folks dismiss out of hand or intentionally shovel a load of crap.
Think of it as looking at an object from a building - the more windows you can look through the better your concept of the object is, and the greater your irritation becomes at some jackass smearing mud on them to block your view.

Worth noting, mind you - is that the folks I hold up as examplars of the best of human behavior are all people who happen to be far more tolerant and accepting than I figure I would ever be capable of, more compassionate, too - or at least having compassion that doesn't manifest itself in violence.

-Frem

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Monday, December 24, 2012 3:10 PM

JO753

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1 + 1 = 2

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Monday, December 24, 2012 6:57 PM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.


Oh, that whole "don't tase me, bro" divided up this forum's population into two groups for me... assholes, and everyone else.

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Monday, December 24, 2012 9:04 PM

SHINYGOODGUY


Hey there Frem,

You make some interesting points in your comments regarding the recent massacre and the gun control issue. I do wish to comment and discuss intelligently, I feel that the time you took to expound on the issues deserves as much, but because of the holidays my attention has been somewhat divided.

I feel this way because it is my contention that you wrote your piece with your fellow Browncoats in mind. By the way, I appreciate your efforts.


SGG

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Tuesday, December 25, 2012 7:32 AM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.


BYTE: It's a sad truth that men are more violent than women in (nearly) every culture across the globe. (One exception is the matriarchal community in western China.) It's not that men are uniformly violent, because the most violent man in one culture may equate to the most pacifist women in another. And, of course, there is a huge overlap in ANY culture.... many men are less violent than many women. But within a single culture, on the average, men are responsible for more violent acts than women. If I had to guess an evolutionary reason for that, it's because men are on the whole more expendable. The rate-limiting step of reproduction is pregnancy, childbirth and early childhood. You just can't make that go faster... children can (FINALLLY!) be put down to walk sometimes at the age of 1. Of course, if you need to book, you're gonna pick up the kidling and run.

Men, OTOH.... their contribution is briefer and less specific. During pregnancy, birth, and early child-raising they may bring needed game, but they bring it to the tribe, not to the family. (Hunting is a cooperative effort which requires the cooperation of other hunters, not women and children). Once animal husbandry became part of the culture, men became virtually unnecessary (IMHO).

I have a theory about reproductive strategies (harem species, seasonally monogamous, life-bonded etc) and its effect on the male. In species where males have virtually no role in childrearing, males numbers tend to be limited. "Excess" males.... males beyond the number needed for mating... are a drain on local resources. Since there is no harm (to the species) in driving off these males, you will often find fierce male-male aggression for dominance, with the losers being pushed to the hinterlands. (So much for the male fantasy of being a harem-master! More likely, they will wind up on the outside looking in, in pathetic bachelor groups sadly roaming the wasteland!) You will also find large differences between males and females (larger antlers or tusks, protective pads of fat, larger size etc) as males have been shaped by evolutionary pressure of male-male aggression.

Anyway, it's an interesting topic and maybe someday I'll be able to make sense of it all.


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Tuesday, December 25, 2012 12:00 PM

BYTEMITE


I have a different theory, as might be expected, but, that's fine, this is something we've disagreed about before. Men as a generally violent gender is just an interpretation/explanation that I can't really accept - for one thing there's not nearly the amount of sexual dimorphism in our species as there is in others - so I tend to look for something else going on.

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Tuesday, December 25, 2012 4:35 PM

JO753

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WAIT! You arent being consistent!

You were suppoze to refute 1 + 1 = 2 with sumthing like '...neanderthals on this board still clinging to their disproven, stale arithmatic.'

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Tuesday, December 25, 2012 5:18 PM

BYTEMITE


Two plus two is five for very high values of two.

Two plus two is ten in base four.

(Entirely consistent math that demonstrates how unoriginal I am, having used the same math previously)

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Tuesday, December 25, 2012 7:11 PM

CHRISISALL


Quote:

Originally posted by BYMITE:
Two plus two is five for very high values of two.


Wow, too much holiday cheer because that almost made sense.
Or, maybe I need remedial math classes...

Wait- BYTE, did you write for "Eureka"?

Chrisisall, wearing a frilly Mal thing on his head, and ready to shoot unarmed, full-body armoured Jeeps

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Tuesday, December 25, 2012 8:42 PM

SIGNYM

I believe in solving problems, not sharing them.


Quote:

I have a different theory, as might be expected, but, that's fine, this is something we've disagreed about before. Men as a generally violent gender is just an interpretation/explanation that I can't really accept - for one thing there's not nearly the amount of sexual dimorphism in our species as there is in others - so I tend to look for something else going on.
Oh, I know for a fact that humans aren't harem species, and that men aren't like stags or elephant seals. I tend to think of humans as something like birds... baby birds as demanding as they are, both parents need to feed the chicks. So their males, and our males, share similar traits. But male birds are still more expendable than females. It's the males who display while the females stay hidden. It's the males who defend territory. So there are some gender differences.... not huge, but there.

Also, in competitive individualistic cultures males DO have an advantage. I think that's why men tend to react with individual violence to perceived danger pretty much adding to the total level of violence, while women try to reduce violence overall. Again, something of a generalization.

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Tuesday, December 25, 2012 8:45 PM

FREMDFIRMA



Yanno, regarding that whole gender roles stupidity...

I've been very entertained by the saga of Miss McKenna Pope schooling the Hasbro company, and have been following the story.
http://consumerist.com/2012/12/04/eighth-grader-to-hasbro-your-purple-
easy-bake-oven-is-too-girly-for-my-little-brother
/
http://consumerist.com/2012/12/17/petition-results-in-hasbro-introduci
ng-gender-neutral-easy-bake-oven
/

And I was downright delighted when our local paper picked up the story too.
http://www.annarbor.com/news/toy-industry-being-asked-for-more-gender-
neutral-toys-this-holiday-season
/

Being a male who cooks, and happens to be very damned good at it, I've been laughing up my sleeve more than a bit about this, especially since one holiday I sent my sister an Easy Bake Oven to *MOCK* her lack of cooking skills - I did take home ec, even back when doing so was "unmanly", although that did kinda break the wall since due to the amount of feminine attention that inspired the next year several guys signed up for the class, only to be much put out when they learned that in order to keep classes small enough to be effective, THEY were gonna be instructed by the grouchy male gym teacher...

I DO hope they learned useful life skills though - that whole macho-bs thing always annoyed me, cause due to their paucity of domestic skill they need a mommy more than a wife, yeargh.

Of course, while culinary skill is no longer considered the exclusive domain of the female gender, and I have to laugh at attempts to man-it-up...
http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ChefOfIron

My own methods and skills are far more suited to a different trope.
http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SupremeChef
Quote:

This chef may engage in Through His Stomach, but as a general expression of affection, or even a generalized benevolence, not a particular sign of deep passion. Your Favorite is similarly not a profound gesture when made by this chef.

Not QUITE true, that - sure, a quick breakfast or general meal doesn't really carry so much meaning beyond hospitality and general benevolence...
But if I crank out an eight course extravaganza specifically tailored to your own tastes and dietary needs, that's kinda... meaningful.

Speakin of which, apparently no one makes cakes or mixes that are both sugar free AND gluten free, looks like it's mostly one or the other, so a current pet project is PROJECT: SAFECAKE.
Having discard the idea of muffins (not cake-like enough) and regular cake (no logical way to get the frosting to come out well) this is gonna be an attempt to create a traditional style Pound Cake while remaining in the bounds of some very serious dietary restrictions and without resulting to chemical enhancement or dangerous food-like products (I've elected to go with Stevia instead of a chemical sugar replacement).

*IF* this works, I'll be happy to share the recipe.

-F

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 6:01 AM

BYTEMITE


Quote:

Originally posted by SIGNYM:
Quote:

I have a different theory, as might be expected, but, that's fine, this is something we've disagreed about before. Men as a generally violent gender is just an interpretation/explanation that I can't really accept - for one thing there's not nearly the amount of sexual dimorphism in our species as there is in others - so I tend to look for something else going on.
Oh, I know for a fact that humans aren't harem species, and that men aren't like stags or elephant seals. I tend to think of humans as something like birds... baby birds as demanding as they are, both parents need to feed the chicks. So their males, and our males, share similar traits.



Yes, I agree with this much. I think the harem ideas out there are mostly a product of wishful thinking. While I doubt humans are 100% monogamous, at the same time both genders seem to have equal capacity for jealousy and possessiveness (and violence stemming from both). I'm not sure those are emotional conditions that would exist for both genders if there were a much different prehistoric family arrangement than there is today.

Quote:

But male birds are still more expendable than females. It's the males who display while the females stay hidden. It's the males who defend territory. So there are some gender differences.... not huge, but there.

Also, in competitive individualistic cultures males DO have an advantage. I think that's why men tend to react with individual violence to perceived danger pretty much adding to the total level of violence, while women try to reduce violence overall. Again, something of a generalization.



Less sure about all this. In the very least it's possible that civilization, itself a sort of evolution, has negated the need for peacocking or general statements about expendability or levels of violence.

But I also doubt women just stayed hidden and passive even in cavemen times. I don't see how a lone woman would survive if that were her basic mentality, forced on her by gender.


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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 6:10 AM

BYTEMITE


Quote:

Speakin of which, apparently no one makes cakes or mixes that are both sugar free AND gluten free, looks like it's mostly one or the other, so a current pet project is PROJECT: SAFECAKE.
Having discard the idea of muffins (not cake-like enough) and regular cake (no logical way to get the frosting to come out well) this is gonna be an attempt to create a traditional style Pound Cake while remaining in the bounds of some very serious dietary restrictions and without resulting to chemical enhancement or dangerous food-like products (I've elected to go with Stevia instead of a chemical sugar replacement).



Hells yeah.

No sugar, huh? That is tricky... Pound cake is a good choice because various fruit slices can substitute for sweetness.

I've never done much with rice flour, you think it might be sweeter tasting than wheat flour? That might be an option if so, although the question is how well it might cook up. There's a certain kind called sweet rice flour or glutinous rice flour (it doesn't contain gluten despite the name). Though that might be more like a transparent dumpling than a cake.

Heh, you could always make a fruity sticky-rice haystack if it comes to that.

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 6:16 AM

BYTEMITE


Psst! Frem!

http://simplysugarandglutenfree.com/angel-food-cake/

:D

Have not located a devil's food cake, though, which seems more to your particular idiom.

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 10:23 AM

WULFENSTAR

http://youtu.be/VUnGTXRxGHg


"Constitution is meant to be aliving document which is why it can be amended. That amendment has out lived its usefullness. It was written during a time of war and the writer couldn't see the future."

Lol at Brenda.

Either a troll, a 12 year old, or someone so stupid as to actually believe what it just wrote.

Either way... sweetie... shut the fuck up. Let the adults talk.



"None of you seem to understand. I'm not locked in here with you... YOU are locked in here with ME."

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 10:37 AM

MAL4PREZ


Quote:

Originally posted by HKCavalier:
Anthony stands naked with his gun in the mirror "stroking" it is fucking sick. It's completely grotesque. And, seriously, that "stereotype" is bullshit. How many men does anyone here imagine literally do this with the mirror?



Cheese and rice, HK. It's a metaphor. Look it up: MET-A-PHOR.

Of course I don't think he's literally stroking his gun, give me a little credit, HK. You've known me long enough to not go there. I'm saying that guns are fetish-ized, as in the first two meanings on dictionary.com:

fet·ish
1.an object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or habitation of a potent spirit or as having magical potency.
2. any object, idea, etc., eliciting unquestioning reverence, respect, or devotion: to make a fetish of high grades.

A whole lotta people in this country, and on these boards, are making a fetish of guns, and they aren't shy about it. They are flat out saying:

BIG GUNS = FREEDOM

Anthony is flat out, without hesitation, saying that. I have a problem with that stance. In reality,

BIG GUNS = VIOLENCE

and

BIG GUNS = THREAT

and

BIG GUNS = SCARING THOSE BAD PEOPLE OUT THERE INTO DOING WHAT *I* WANT THEM TO DO AND TO HELL WITH ANY OTHER LESS FUCKED UP WAY OF PROTECTING DEMOCRACY

Sure, it can be debated whether

VIOLENCE = FREEDOM

But I'll tell you straight up that that ain't the kind of freedom I'm interested in. That's not true freedom, it's just more of the same old same old that's made for centuries of abuse and bloodshed. It is the opposite of freedom.

Anyhow, I guess that debate won't be had because some folks are so incapable of recognizing that metaphor thing. So let's go with fetish: there is a gun fetish here. Some folks can't have a discussion about what is generally necessary armament and what is not, a handful of days after 20 children were gunned down, without going into the details of what they love most about their fetish-ized killing machines.

That, my friend, is sick. That is sicker than anything a man or woman does standing in front of mirror.

(Trying really hard not to add an obscene gesture regarding your inability to recognize a gorramned metaphor... Oh heck: F U too for taking it there.)

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 10:37 AM

BYTEMITE


Quote:

Lol at Brenda.

Either a troll, a 12 year old, or someone so stupid as to actually believe what it just wrote.

Either way... sweetie... shut the fuck up. Let the adults talk.



Actually... That's one of the few things I give positive credit to the founding fathers for. They created a system of government on paper that could deal with something they could never imagine, like the computer or the internet, three hundred years ago.

Also, newbies are soft and tender, with little wet noses... Wait, no. Puppies. Puppies again.

But if you're going to invite them into your home and feed them from the porch, you don't yell at them until AFTER they chew up the carpet. It's being a good host!

I have the weirdest parties.

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 10:43 AM

WULFENSTAR

http://youtu.be/VUnGTXRxGHg


Byte...

Hehehe.

Yes, the founders created a system that was flexible.. (NOT living, breathing, bowing to every whim). Well stated.

As to these silly puppies...

I've got a big roll of newspaper ready for their naughty little noses..

"None of you seem to understand. I'm not locked in here with you... YOU are locked in here with ME."

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 10:48 AM

BYTEMITE


Okay. Some of them do bite back though. Commence verbal gladiatory combat?

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Wednesday, December 26, 2012 10:57 AM

WULFENSTAR

http://youtu.be/VUnGTXRxGHg


I wonder how many here have watched "The Seven Samurai."

"None of you seem to understand. I'm not locked in here with you... YOU are locked in here with ME."

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