Both you and MWP are children of divorce, and as such, there is the idea lurking in your sub-conscious that marrage doesn't last; couples let eachother down. Does this seem like a scenerio you two might be playing out?
He distances himself, and cheats, 'cause inside he feels he doesn't deserve you, and is scared of losing you- the very things his actions will cause...
You push him to change, to be more ambitious and attentive, and inside you feel you don't deserve him, and that you'll lose him- the very things your actions will cause...
I'm sorry if I'm simplifying here, but you both seem like good folk, and usually people come together for a reason. Life's constant demands and subtle childhood programming work against some, I know they have with me and Kathieisall.
I detect some whimsy, still, in your log, there must be hope, yet. You both need to be clear about what you need from each other, and drop what you merely want, for now.
Sounds like you need his attention, and he needs you acceptance.
You both have it to give.

Again, sorry if I'm off base, if I haven't helped in some way, at least I hope I haven't offended.

Dumb-romantical Chrisisall, who hopes you crazy kids can work it out

What you said about Pez and TWG was both wrong and offensive.

Otherwise, I wish you both the best and I will keep you in my prayers.

Hi Wife. I mainly lurk here, but I just wanted to say, I am sorry for what you are going through. I went through a divorce a couple of years ago, and I understand how the pain makes you lash out. Ignore any hatred directed at you here. My own husband had a different face with his friends and internet buddies: he was and is well-loved online. But the very people who stood by his side didn't know him as well as they thought they did. Not that he is some terrible guy; just not a very good husband. They certainly didn’t think he was the kind of guy to leave his wife of 6 years and their newborn son. No one can know what goes on between two people; my own mother was shocked when I showed up on her doorstep with my baby.

So those of you that stand in judgement: this is a post coming from a place of fresh pain. People become kind of irrational in the beginning of a divorce. Unless you've been there, it's hard to understand. Wife is in pain; it doesn't make her a bad person or mother. It just makes her human.

And my advice to you, Wife, is that you edit this post away. It is filled with acid that will eat at you, and probably doesn't represent who you really are. And you may see some comments from people who don't understand; MWP is pretty popular here. And also, TWG is a flirt with everyone. I haven't seen anything in her posts to indicate it's any more than that.

I wish you strength for the next few months. No matter what happens, the pain does fade, and it will get better. My best to you.

-Diz

Good riddance to bad rubbish, I think. No man needs a bitch like this anyway. Lord knows I've had my share and my life is better without them. Hopefully you won't be QUITE the bitch my own mother was and try to make her kids hate their father, but most likely you will tell your kids what a horrible, irresponsible(that was my mom's favorite insult to me and my father. that and "You're just like your father!"), lazy, good-for-nothing, alcoholic(even though she's the one what drove him to the drink in the first place) ass ManWithPez is. I just hope that your kids will see through your bitter worthless hatred sooner than I did. At least I was able to shield my younger siblings from the indoctrination and the brunt of the misdirected anger stemming from your own failures as a person, a wife, a mother and a woman. I will pray for ManWithPez and his children. I will not, however, pray for you. May God have mercy on you. We won't.

Six months ago my wife and were where you two are now, it was hard, but we worked on it (we still are) and found a way to come through it. Specifics don't matter, 'cause every couple is unique, but don't throw in the towel 'till you're both sure you gave it everything you both could (and maybe try a couple's therapist, they can help past the blind spots in your communication).

I joked with MWP that someday Wifewithpez and Kathieisall should get together to bitch and moan about their FF obsessed husbands, I hope that can still happen in the future.

My best wishes go to both of you, WWP.

I probably should stay the hell out of this, but I’m in this now so here goes…I too spend way too much time on the internet and FFF.net specifically. Jake constantly reminds me that I’ve been sitting here for a few hours. While I don’t see Pez here every time I am here, I do know he spends a lot of minutes here as well. I’m sorry if I’ve stolen any of his time. I can tell you that what he says to me is mostly stuff about his love for his kids and his love for his wife. I don’t know how much that’ll mean coming from a third party, but it’s what I’ve read. I also know I’m not just an internet time whore, but a huge flirt here on FFF.net. Ask around, all the guys, and some of the ladies, spew innuendoes my way…I throw them right back at them. Obviously, I’ve gone too far.

It doesn’t matter if I’m not the woman you think I am. All that matters is that I’ve said enough to offend someone. I’m sorry.

I must say I've never got the perception from MWP's blogs that you were some "nagging fishwife". His blogs poke fun, sure, but most often he's the butt of his own jokes and I have never thought he was trying to make himself look good at the expense of others.

*gives wifewithpez a soft pat on the back* I'm sure you're hurting pretty bad right now.

*wishes she could comfort manwithpez, however he hasn't been around lately*

I know that sometimes relationships just don't work out. Please try to remeber that you have children together and even if things can't work between you two, try to be civil for their sakes. I sure you both love them so much it hurts, so make sure to cause them as little pain as possible.

Like many others, I will be thinking of you both.

The impending divorce has been coming for a long time and is not an effect from recent blogs that have come to my attention.
Yes..I probably should have handled this a little more dignified then I have but I am tired of competing with everyone else for my husbands affections. Reguardless of what he posts....his actions speak louder.

Well, now I kinda feel the need to defend Pez a little bit, but not by jumping on you. I agree that some of your argument has a basis, but being an outside party, I think I can see this from both sides.

First off, he most certainly does love you. He says it in his posts. There should be no question there. He loves you, and his kids.

Second, everything between him and Weirdess is innocent, despite the way it may have looked. TWG is taken, and so is Pez. I don't think he'd risk his marriage on an internet relationship with someone half a country away.

Third, everyone has their faults. Believe me, I have plenty, and my wife is so kind as to point them out to me on occasion. But we work on them together, and no matter how screwed up things get from time to time, we always find mutual ground.

I'm not some old fart. I'm 22. I can relate to what's going on. The four of you make a beautiful family. I think it's one worth fighting for.

At any rate, I will keep you all in my prayers.

- Soul